Saturday
02Jan2010

12 Ways You Can Communicate On Facebook

On January 1, 2010 (Friday), I had the distinct pleasure of sitting with my wonderful friend and colleague, Dixie “Dynamite” Gillaspie for a couple hours as she taught me a dozen ways to communicate using FaceBook.

As both a thank you and tribute to Dixie, I had some fun creating two training videos that VERY quickly show you what she showed me.

I actually tried to get all 12 methods in one take, but with the five-minute limit and not enough prep time, I fumbled that objective and missed the last two methods. So I punted and created a second video of the last two.

And another interesting outcome of the “gotta get this in one take” effort was the ever-changing title of the piece. I started with 10 ways, moved to 11 ways and ended up with the even dozen. But totally forgot to fix that in a few places.

I’m hoping you’ll laugh with me rather than at me as you listen in. (It really was a lot of fun!)

So here are the 12 ways you can communicate on FaceBook along with links to the two videos showing you my way of actually doing those 12 things.

  1. Ask Someone To Be Friends
  2. Update Your Status
  3. @ Mention Someone In A Post
  4. Comment On Someone’s Post
  5. Write On Someone’s Wall
  6. Message Someone
  7. Chat With Someone Currently Online
  8. Write A Note To Someone
  9. Invite Someone To An Event
  10. Tag Somone In A Photo Or Video
  11. Invite Someone To Join Group Or Fan Page
  12. Suggest A Friend To Someone

Videos

If you can’t view these videos you’ll need to install the Adobe Flash player: http://get.adobe.com/flashplayer/

Video 1: First 10 Wayshttp://www.honestselling.com/storage/videos/FaceBook_12_Ways_-_1_through_10.swf

Video 2: Ways 11 & 12http://www.honestselling.com/storage/videos/FaceBook_12_Ways_-_11_through_12.swf

Enjoy!

Wednesday
23Dec2009

Book Review: "Honesty Sells"

Prologue

I have a Google Alert set to ping me every time the phrase “Honest Selling” appears on the web. That way I can keep track of everything related to my effort to bring honesty back to the sales profession.

In May of ‘09 I received an alert that led me to http://www.honestysells.com — it took me to a page discussing a free teleseminar. I participated in that seminar and had a very bad experience with it and one of the authors, which I documented in this post (http://www.honestselling.com/blog/2009/6/8/salesdrip-report-do-not-believe-what-you-read.html) from June.

So when I purchased the book and began to read, I was admittedly not unbiased. But I told “Devil Gill” to take a nap and started the book with Angel Gill fully in charge — hoping to find someone else who “got it” when it came to what Honest Selling really is.

Dashed Hopes

Quote: “Only 10 percent of salespeople in any organization are top performers, defined as those who regularly close at least half of their qualified prospects.”

There Angel Gill sat. A freshly printed book advocating honesty when selling in his hands. The hope of having found advocates for honesty in sales fueling his heartbeat. The dream that he might have a tiny bit of help with his lifetime mission of eliminating the self-centered thinking that creates dishonesty in the profession he loves so much.

And in the third paragraph of the introduction chapter I learn that the authors measure success in the most self-centered way possible.

Seriously, I felt like I got kicked in the gut. When I read that line, my shoulders fell, the blood drained from my cheeks and I actually sighed out loud … so loud, in fact, my wife heard me from the other room and walked in to ask me what was wrong.

Enter Devil Gill.

Honest Selling has NOTHING WHATSOEVER to do with closing percentages. In fact, by using closing percentages as your measure of whether someone is successful, you create the very situation that produces manipulation and dishonesty.

Let me make this perfectly clear, because it is the foundation of all things honest in sales. For a salesperson to practice true Honest Selling, his or her agenda must align with the prospect’s agenda. They must share the same goal. They must be working toward the same conclusion. Otherwise, conflicts of agenda arise — like objections that must be overcome — and the temptation for dishonesty rages.

Let me ask you this. Out of all the prospects with whom you have ever met, how many of them do you think entered into the conversation thinking “I’ve got to help this salesperson increase his closing rate?”

How about zero?

Prospects don’t give a damn about your closing rate. And if you’re measuring your success based on your closing rate, then when you meet with a prospect you are immediately at odds, because your agendas don’t align.

Prospects care about making the smartest choices for themselves.

Period.

Until you enter a sales appointment with the true agenda of doing what’s best for the prospect — even if it means sending him or her to your most hated competitor — you will never be a true practitioner of Honest Selling.

That’s a massive STRIKE ONE for this book. After all, everything that follows is written to help you increase your closing rates — not to help you learn how to sell honestly.

STRIKE TWO came on the first page of chapter three, where the authors chose to redefine honest communication to fit their own agenda. (This is called rationalization — and it’s what dishonest salespeople do every day to justify their behavior.)

After quoting Webster’s definition of honesty, the authors chose to change it as follows: “We define honest communication as saying what needs to be said—including all pertinent facts.”

So first they advocate salespeople measure their success by self-centered closing percentages, then they open the door so salespeople can self-define honest communication — choosing for themselves what “needs” to be said and choosing for themselves what “all” the “pertinent” facts may be.

If you’re going to sell honestly, YOU DON’T GET TO DEFINE what honesty is.

STRIKE THREE then occurs later in the same chapter as the authors discuss “Why Salespeople Lie to Clients.”

Quote: “As you read this book, you may think of a situation in which you were honest and you lost the business or didn’t get the sale. Unfortunately, when things like that happen, we tend to get spooked. Instead, remember that nothing works 100 percent of the time.”

Salespeople don’t lie because honesty sometimes fails. They lie because they are trying to close a sale and they sense that close slipping away.

This is further proof that these authors simply do not get what Honest Selling is, and that their closing-percentage measurement system is fertilizer for failure and dishonesty.

Measure your success by whether you helped the prospect make the best choice for himself or herself and you WILL have a 100 percent success rate. (Note: You’ll also close more sales, but that’s not the “why” behind this attitude — it just happens to be a wonderful benefit of adopting the Honest Selling philosophy of suspension of self interest.)

STRIKE FOUR happened when I turned to Chapter 13 “Overcoming Objections and Questions.”

OBJECTIONS don’t occur in an Honest Selling sales appointment. Let me make that point another way — if you’re helping the prospect make the smartest choice for himself or herself, to what, exactly, will he or she have to object?

ANY sales book that includes a chapter on overcoming objections, by default, must contain tactics that produce the very objections the system is designed to overcome.

STRIKE FIVE is the most disheartening statement I read in the book. It comes at the end of page 147 and, sadly, is repeated for effect on page 149.

Quote: “Your job is to help your prospect discover that engaging with you is the right decision.”

… Give me a minute to let my blood stop boiling.

Honest Selling IS NOT about helping your prospect to decide to purchase what you’re selling. Honest Selling is about helping your prospect find the best thing to purchase based on his or her own needs, wants and goals.

This book does not foster honesty in sales. It perpetuates the myth that sales is about closing. It perpetuates the false assumption that prospects are liars. It perpetuates the misguided belief that prospects are too stupid to figure out what is best for them without being guided by you — the salesperson. It perpetuates the self-centered thinking that a salesperson’s job is to guide prospects to buying what he or she sells. It perpetuates manipulative tactics — even their wording examples for overcoming objections show their complete lack of understanding of what Honest Selling really is.

Bad: This book continues the self-centered thinking that is responsible for everything wrong in sales.

Worse: It does so under the guise of honesty.

If you believe in Honest Selling then do not waste your time with “Honesty Sells.”

Gill E. Wagner, Founder of Honest Selling

Wednesday
16Dec2009

What Is "Honest Selling" Anyway?

This is a good news, bad news situation.

Good news: More and more people are talking about honesty in sales. New books have been published. Blog posts have begun to pop. The idea of not being a salesdrip is starting to catch on.

Bad news: With the new entry of voices, comes the confusion of myriad opinion.

So I’m setting the record straight.

What “Honest Selling” Is Not

Honest Selling is not simply being honest with prospects. It’s not Consultative Selling. It’s not Solution Selling. It’s not High Probability Selling.

Yes, being honest is a component of Honest Selling. Yes, diagnosing the prospect’s situation (finding the pain) is a component. Yes, prescribing the solution to what you’ve diagnosed is a component. Yes, meeting with prospects that have a high probability of closing is a component as well.

But while these systems and Honest Selling share some concepts, they fall short of being true Honest Selling systems, because at their core, they are still focused on sales from the wrong perspective — that of the salesperson who wants to close more sales.

Listen up, salespeople. Because you need to understand this next point to truly get what Honest Selling is, and to begin to understand why Honest Selling outperforms all other methodologies.

Prospects don’t give a rats ass whether you close sales.

It is this self-centered perspective — how can I close a sale — that stops the salespeople who use these systems from achieving stratospheric success, because this type of me thinking creates a conflict with every prospect they meet. Prospects don’t care about you, they care about them. And unless you start caring more about them than you do about yourself, you will always have a barrier between you and unlimited success.

So What Is Honest Selling, Then?

Honest Selling differs from other selling systems in the following key way:

Honest Selling salespeople focus on helping their prospects make the best choice for themselves, even when it means sending them to their most hated competitors.

In other selling systems, the salesperson’s agenda and the prospect’s agenda are at odds — salespeople want to close sales; prospects want to make the best choices for themselves.

In Honest Selling, both parties’ agendas align.

It is the absolute, unconditional, in-your-gut suspension of self interest on the part of the salesperson that defines Honest Selling.

It is the true, service-minded attitude behind Honest Selling that produces the relationships that make Honest Selling work.

Counter intuitive? Yes! But the very best ideas usually are.

 

Gill E. Wagner, Sage of Selling
Founder and President of Honest Selling
Founder of the Yellow-Tie International Business Development Association

Friday
16Oct2009

Ding! Moments.

Attended the Social Media Club’s event last night and had a great time.

Met Doug. (Actually re-met — we’d bumped into one another briefly before.) Exchanged the usual pleasantries. Chatted about business, sales, common references, etc. Learned he’s a search engine optimization guy and a few other basic things. You know. Just scratching the surface.

Then we hit that point of decision where we either engage for real or trade good-tos and move on.

We engaged.

About 10 minutes of interviewing and sharing later, Doug mentioned a detail that dinged my connector’s radar. Doug speaks fluent Spanish.

Connections are in the details, folks. And it was that tidbit of information that produced my ding moment and allowed me to connect Doug to Rick.

You see, Rick runs a law firm that specializes in working with the Spanish-speaking population. Granted, I have no idea where his SEO efforts stand, but connecting isn’t limited to specific need knowledge — it’s more of a toss-it-out-there-and-see-whether-it-sticks kind of thing.

I made the connection this morning. And wouldn’t you know it … Rick is in the process of reconfiguring his entire site and replied with an “I would love to meet you” message.

I’m not saying you must always dig deep — sometimes you just don’t have the mental bandwidth to engage with every person you meet. I’m just saying that when you go beyond the surface is when connections occur.

Get out that shovel folks.

Wednesday
07Oct2009

Feet-To-The-Fire Commitments

The more I work with people in various organizations, groups, chambers, etc., the more I find myself rolling my eyes at the commitments people make then break.

In all honesty, this is a failing of mine as well, because the curse of having an inventive mind is I get really excited about new stuff, then struggle to follow through once the newness wears off. The good news on that front is I recognize the failing and am working hard to eliminate it (through systems I create for myself and outsourcing).

But when you participate in or lead groups it can be a royal pain in the ass to deal with others who either don’t recognize their own failings or simply don’t care.

And this can be ESPECIALLY difficult with paying clients, because they feel like the writing of a check allows them to dictate these terms.

The bottom line for me, however, is this. If you pay me to help you achieve a result, then you place yourself in the path of achieving that result, it is my fiduciary duty to move you the hell off that path. Otherwise I don’t deserve the money and shouldn’t keep it.

Take Sell Like Mad Day, for example. There is a bit of homework participants must do BEFORE they arrive for the day’s activity. So naturally, I need to manage expectations and thereby ensure that people who show up have their homework done.

I recently sent the following e-mail to all participants for the Oct. 15 SLMD. I’m hoping sharing it with you will help you manage your clients’ expectations — and their ability to meet the commitments they make.


Everyone,

I recently fielded three questions about SLMD — thought you might like to know this stuff too.

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Q1: “What happens if someone shows up without all their stuff?”

A1: The homework — meaning the list of stuff you must bring — for SLMD is mandatory. (See: http://www.honestselling.com/sell-like-mad-day/ if you’ve forgotten what that is.)

Arrive without it and three things will happen:

* You’ll be escorted to the door.

* You’ll forfeit the fee you paid to be there.

* Once you’re gone, the rest of us will laugh about what a putz you were to make
this commitment and break it.

Anyone who doesn’t like this won’t be successful on SLMD anyway, because this is a day for doing, not for talking about doing, and a day for making and keeping firm commitments, not for playing around at sales.

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Q2: What’s the cancellation or postponement policy?

A2: You may cancel your participation any time up to 7 a.m. on your scheduled SLMD. Just call 314-416-1440 and tell me or leave me a voice mail. Then:

* You request a refund and get it.

* You can postpone to another SLMD.

This should cover stuff like getting sick and emergencies, and will give the homework slackers a way out as well.

Note: If someone repeatedly signs up and cancels, I reserve the right to give them the permanent boot, because SLMD will not work without a crowd of six or seven people, and it’s not fair to regular attendees to let one person abuse the system. So please do not sign up unless your intent is a rock-solid commitment.

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Q3: Your website home page says everything is guaranteed. Is this guaranteed?

A3: Absolutely … it involves a test-drive period just like all our guarantees.

For SLMD, the test-drive period is 8 to 10 a.m. When we break at the 10 o’clock hour, if you feel SLMD is not what you expected, you may request a refund and leave.

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Thanks, and have a nice day.

Gill


“Sell with manipulation and the world is your battlefield.
Sell with honesty and the world is your playground.” -Sage of Selling

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